I can’t believe I’ve been married for almost 4 whole months already! It seems almost surreal to think that so much time has already passed by, and I have to say that it has been quite an interesting and exciting journey! In today’s post I’m taking a look back at our first few months together as newlyweds and finally sharing a video from our wedding!
No matter how long a couple has been dating, there is always an adjustment period after marriage. How big of an adjustment it is however, really depends on what the relationship was like prior to the marriage. My family is more on the traditional side, so Shawn and I did not really sleep over or live together before we were married. Even more, while we were dating we saw each other on average once every week or once every two weeks because we were always working on different schedules. Needless to say, going from that to living together and seeing each other every day was a huge adjustment for us. It has definitely been quite the journey, and if I’m honest, it hasn’t been without it’s ups and downs, but it really has been such an interesting and exciting adventure.
The most interesting part of the last 4 months has by far been the vast number of new things that we’ve learned about each other. Call me naïve, but I really thought that after almost 6 years together, we knew most of what there was to know about the other person. But wow! I can’t believe how many little things such as our likes, dislikes, pet peeves, habits, etc. we didn’t know about each other yet. He didn’t know how much I love Pizza Hut (um, hello that’s kind of important to know!!) or the fact that I get a sudden burst of energy every time I lay down to sleep, no matter how tired I am! I had no clue how much of a neat freak he was or the fact that he has to put lotion on his back before he sleeps otherwise he’s restless. As crazy as it’s been finding out that there was so much we didn’t know about each other, it’s been one of the most exciting parts of being married so far.
On the flip side of that, two of the hardest parts of the past 4 months has been adjusting to sleeping together and getting used to our different work schedules. They kind of tie in together, because Shawn works shift work, and so some days he’s crawling into bed at 12am or even 6am. Now I don’t know about you guys, but I am an extremely light sleeper; in fact, we both are! So having someone crawl into bed when I’m already asleep wakes me up and makes me feel exhausted in the morning when it’s time for me to go to work. Other nights he has to go to bed super early at 8pm because he’s working an early morning shift, and I’m more of a night owl so I tend to disturb his sleep instead. What’s more is that we’ve found that we both have different sleep habits – I enjoy being warm and cozy while he likes being nice and cold; I enjoy cuddling while he wants to be on opposite ends of the bed; and I like a thick comforter while he just wants a thin sheet. Let me tell you, we had to learn to compromise pretty much right away in order for us to get some decent sleep. Good news is that we’ve finally figured out the recipe for a perfect sleep that leaves us both well rested. Success!! I have to say though, to all the women or men who are married to someone who does shift work, hats off to you! Getting used to being on different schedules and sometimes only seeing each other for 15 minutes of the day despite living together has been a HUGE adjustment for me, and quite frankly I’m still trying to get fully used to it, but I’m getting there.
Other than learning that we didn’t quite know all there was to know about each other and adjusting to new sleep habits and work schedules, the last few months have been pretty amazing to see how much our relationship has grown and developed post-marriage. Being around each other every day and going through all of our daily habits and chores together has taught us the fine art of compromise and communication. I’ll be the first to admit that it took us a while to really get this down-pat, but here we are 4 months later and we’re doing pretty good! Honestly some days I look at how much we’ve grown, especially in our ability to compromise with each other, and it makes me so proud to see how we’ve been able to blend our lives together and always choose what’s best for us as a team rather than for us individually. Because that’s what we are now – a team – and we will always be on the same side.
Before I end this post, I wanted to share a short video of our wedding day with you all. I hope you enjoy it!
Just writing this post puts a huge smile on my face because I truly am so happy in my life right now. I mentioned in a previous post “New Year, New Me?” that I’ve been going through a lot of personal changes in my life in order to be the best version of myself that I can be. That personal journey combined with the journey of being newlyweds is the perfect recipe for a very exciting adventure, and I really can’t wait to see where the rest of this year and every other year after this takes us in our marriage.